8 Best Advises You Can Count on to have a Healthy Relationship

Shreya Ghosh
4 min readApr 30, 2020

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When it comes to relationships, women get involved emotionally more than men. For men, the sparks tend to settle after a few years of dating, but for women, it takes time to settle all the day-dreaming and butterflies in the stomach. As a result, women fail to see the realities at the beginning of a relationship.

Well, relax, this is a normal thing, and happen with most of us! Cause, let’s face it, we are emotionally stronger than man, and we should not be apologetic about it!

However, it is also very crucial for women to focus on reality before investing too much into a relationship. If you allow emotions to get over you, this will lead you to fights, unhappy relationships, and ultimately breakups.

Then what’s the solution? How to handle relationships like a pro? If you are looking for answers to these questions, then theses relationship tips are here at your service:

1. Prioritize Your Life First

You can be head over heels in love with your partner, but that doesn’t mean forgetting your own identity.

You have your own friends, family, career, and hobbies. Don’t abandon your own choices and life for the sake of your relationship.

Make yourself a priority, invest time in doing stuff you like. And don’t forget to have a ‘Me Time.’ Otherwise, your relationship will hit into the dead-end.

2. Stand Your Ground

Most women don’t open up about their feelings or don’t speak their mind in a relationship. This creates a lot of fuss in your dating life.

Men prefer women who are honest and know what they want in life. So speak your mind, strongly express your disapproval, and always stand your ground!

But, remember to use kind words while expressing your thoughts or disapproving something. Because emotional drama is the last thing, you’ll want in your life.

3. Don’t be an Attention Seeker

Do you often stalk your boyfriend? Or text him like 24x7? If yes, then you need to stop yourself right there! Cause you’re only chasing him!

Don’t be a chaser or needy woman, cause too much attention can suffocate your partner, and eventually you’ll push him away.

4. Love Yourself the Most

This is the most essential thing in a relationship. If you are unable to love yourself first, how can you like someone else?

Do you know why most of the relationships are unsuccessful? Because most women fail to embrace their flaws and know their worth. They settle for less and always fall for the jerks who break their heart.

So, learn to accept yourself first. Focus on the positive sides, and love every part of yourself unconditionally.

5. Have the Uncomfortable Talk

To have a long-term relationship, it is crucial to have “Uncomfortable Talk” with your partner. But, what exactly I meant by uncomfortable talk? It means discussing all the essential matters that may affect your relationship in the future. Crucial issues like what’s your life goals, how you both manage your finances, whether you want marriage or not, etc.

This will help you to realize if your partner is ‘The One’ for you or a strict no-no!

6. Realize the Worth of Space

It is imperative to have your own me when you’re in a relationship. Don’t go chasing your partner, value his privacy and personal space in life. Spending time away from each other doesn’t mean your relationship is sinking! To tell the truth, it will make your relationship healthy.

So, instead of calling your boyfriend in your free time, go read the book you wanted to read for a long time. Make time for your friends, family, and hobbies. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean losing your own self, right?

7. You Can’t Change Your Partner

Now, this is a significant problem for lots of women. They tend to believe they can change the men they love by simply putting all their affections on their empty plates. As a result, they always fall for a toxic guy.

So don’t be stupid to believe you can change him. Because we can’t change others. Well, if you’re a therapist, then its another thing! But, jocks apart, if you don’t like something about your partner, then don’t wait for him to change miraculously with your love. It seriously won’t work.

8. Tell Him How You Want to be Treated

People treat you the way you let them treat you. So make sure to make it clear at the starting of your relationship how you want to be treated. So next time, if he yells at you, simply correct them, saying you don’t like to be yelled at.

It’s your responsibility to tell your partner what behaviors you like and what turns you off. Otherwise, you’ll lose respect from him in the long run.

So here I have pretty much summarized all the important things you should remember in a relationship. Take these tips and go conquer your love life!

All the best!

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Shreya Ghosh
Shreya Ghosh

Written by Shreya Ghosh

Freelance Content writer & Website Copywriter. If you need any writing help, let’s chat here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shreyaghoshwriter/